![]() The responsibility then lies with us to accept, and understand the source of, these feelings and then seek to offer any help, if necessary. This puts the power in the hands of the other person, the power to communicate their feelings. This means turning our communication practice around and seeking first to understand, rather than first to be understood. It is in those times that we practice listening with empathy. And I as a mother can attest that my first impulse is to help, to solve the problem or to offer solutions even before I know all the facts.Īfter listening to Covey, sometimes it is a good idea to just listen and say nothing for the first few minutes so I can be able to gather all the facts before offering any assistance. There are many times that others will come to us with problems, with needs, or with conversation. While this sort of directed communication is important, it is not the only way that we communicate. Especially as managers and leaders and parents, we often give instruction to others. Generally speaking, our first impulse in communication is to make sure that we have been understood. Seeking understanding is a two-way street that relies on the ability of each listener to ‘actively listen’. Seek first to understand, then be understood. He shares a key point that he learned over and over from his Mom while growing up. In life we must first understand before having any intent of responding we must be the doctor who diagnoses and then prescribes not the one who prescribes before diagnosing.They try to do some bodily gestures and if the interviewee follows their actions, this means that they are on the same level of understanding each other. Seek First To Understand, And Then Be Understood The Wandering Therapist Sessions SeptemWind Rivers, Wyoming Ty is off in the Wind Rivers in Wyoming hiking during a sunrise. People tend to reply in one of four ways, they either evaluate, probe for more, advise, or interpret, all of which are not understanding. In the scenario I was in I was quick to reply. When you are approached by someone it's because they confide in you to listen they want you to listen so that you can first understand and at times they may not even be searching for a response. The very first time I recall addressing an issue like this I also recall simply telling them what it would or was like for me, little help did that do. ![]() An example of this in the life of myself is whenever I encounter a friend of mine after going through some form of emotional turmoil. We tend to forget that we perceive things in various manners and more often than not attempt to share our past experience with the person who we are supposedly listening to we are now wanting to reply instead of understand the root cause of their issue or message. We take a turn for the worst by doing this and we easily lose sight that every individual, every person like yourself is Nearly everyone has encountered a time where they have listened to a person with the intent to reply rather than to understand the person. This is what this habit is all about, first showing you that there is an issue that could potentially enhance the way you communicate, if it hasn't already, and then this habit trains and teaches you how to understand and then look to speak. They also teach you to speak afterward and train you in your diction, fluctuation and even projection of your voice, but what training for listening have you received? None. You are also then trained to write, to write as you have read, to write different genres and different styles, and to address different audiences. ![]() Through your early stages of life up until now from kindergarten to high-school you are trained in how to communicate effectively: In how to read, how to read more efficiently, how to read more difficult content, and how to use context during reading to decipher messages. In life there are four keys to effective communication: reading, writing, speaking, and listening.
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